Codependent? 

 

What is codependency?  How do I know if I’m codependent?

I invite you to use the following quiz to help raise your awareness of whether you are affected by codependency.  It will take less than 10 minutes …and it could change your life!

A Codependency Quiz

Read through the questions below and answer yes or no to determine if you might struggle with codependency.  

• Do you tend to doubt yourself and feel insecure, even in areas where you have experience and know what you’re doing?

• Do you struggle to say “no” to requests even when you don’t have the time or energy to carry them out?

• Do you let people too close to you, only to feel betrayed when they disappoint or hurt you?

• Do you find yourself pushing people away to protect yourself?

• Do you have a hard time recognizing your own emotions or thoughts?

• Do you struggle to identify your own needs?

• Do you spend excessive amounts of time and energy on others at the expense of meeting your own needs?

• Have others described you as “too needy” in relationships?

• Do you have intense emotional reactions to conflict in your relationships?

• In relationships, do you often feel that you are the only one making a sacrifice to meet your partner’s needs?

• Do you find your personal worth or value in how others see you?

• Are you constantly striving to prove yourself to others?

• Do you tend to overanalyze and obsess over mistakes you’ve made in relationships?

• Do you find yourself thinking, “if only this other person would change, everything in my life would be better?”

• Do you feel a strong need to be loved, affirmed, and desired that causes problems in relationships?

• Do you notice yourself using passive-aggressive statements to get your needs met?

• Do you find yourself trying to “fix” others?

• Do you have a hard time trusting others?

• Do you struggle with intense outbursts of anger or irritability?

• Do you feel ambivalence toward intimacy: a desire to be close to others, but also a fear of what it means to be close?

• Do you try to make everyone else around you happy, even though you feel miserable?

• Do you feel overcome with shame and/or guilt when someone offers you constructive feedback?

If you’ve answered five or more of these questions with “yes,” you may be dealing with codependent tendencies in your life.  Please note that answering yes to the majority of these questions should not be taken as a final determination in establishing that you have a problem with codependency.  The questions have no clinical backup and should not be relied upon as a substitute for a professional diagnosis.

To find out more about codependency and how to Stay in Your Lane facilitated by Joy Gaertner join the first session for free and with no obligation to complete the workshop.

November 2

6-7:30 p.m.

ONLINE via Zoom

Register on Eventbrite at

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/codependency-stay-in-your-lane-introduction-tickets-126572057431